Treasure Valley Prays

The Graceful Exit

packing boxes

Even though it’s been a month since I announced my retirement, the reality of leaving my pastoral call and ending my professional career hasn’t quite sunk in. Yet after preaching my last sermon this past Sunday, it’s becoming more real. Since then, I’ve begun saying goodbyes through phone calls, Zoom meetings and socially distanced visits. I’ve also turned my attention to tying up loose ends in preparation for the next pastor, along with starting to pack up my office.

But packing up my office isn’t just putting books and files in boxes. It’s been sorting through them carefully, deciding what to keep and what to let go of. Along with reliving all the memories they bring up for me: the happy times recalling a class that I taught, a sermon I preached, a child I baptized; and the not so happy times from certain Council meetings or in difficult relationships. Going through all this stuff has brought up a sense of accomplishment for what we’ve done, and also regrets for what’s been left undone. With the reminder that saying goodbye to a community and a life’s work that I have loved is not easy.

What’s been helpful to me is putting my story within the larger story of God. In this case, the story of Simeon and Anna who are characters in the Christmas story. As told in Luke 2:22-38, these two seniors have been waiting for the Messiah, praying in the temple for his coming. Once they laid eyes on him after his birth, they knew God’s promise had been fulfilled. Now, as Simeon said, he could die in peace “for my eyes have seen your salvation, and the glory of your people Israel.”

In her book The Graceful Exit, author Mary C. Lindberg interprets this biblical story in a way which speaks to me deeply right now.

Apparently God’s plan all along was that endings would be part of life for God’s people. Simeon didn’t get to stay with Jesus and watch him grow. As relationships change and we grow older, we finally begin to see what Jesus means for the world, and then we face the pain of walking away, of separation from beloved communities. But God shows us endings can actually fulfill promises. Simeon and Anna waited their whole lives, trusting in God’s promises. Why could they go out the door gracefully? Because God kept the promise that sustained so many people. Because this sighting of God carried Anna and Simeon, and those who surrounded them all the way to the next sighting.

On Ash Wednesday we were reminded of the ending we all face, “remember you are dust and to dust you shall return.” And yet we also remember that it was the dust of the earth from which humans were created and formed as God breathed life into us. Dust may be our ending, but it was also our beginning. That’s the crux of our faith as Christians. Through death comes resurrection. In baptism we die with Christ so that we may live with Christ. This is the promise that sustains us all the way to our next sighting of God’s presence with us.

Even though goodbyes are hard, I take heart in the truth that every ending leads to a new beginning. And that all that has been and all that will be is held in God’s loving hands.

Gretchen Bingea

Gretchen Bingea

ELCA Pastor
Immanuel Lutheran, Boise, ID

This Post Has 13 Comments

  1. johnstevenhergert

    Thanks Gretchen for your words, your insights, your caring spirit for your community of faith! Peace to you as you and Will move into your next experience.

    1. Gretchen Bingea

      Thanks John. I’m glad that we’re staying in the area so I’ll still see you around!

  2. Linda Worden

    Gretchen, I’ve enjoyed reading your posts over the past year. Best wishes in the next stage of your journey!

  3. Gretchen Bingea

    Thank you so much Linda!

  4. Lynnette

    Thank you for reminding me of God sightings and trusting in His promises. God’s peace be yours.

    1. Gretchen Bingea

      God’s peace to you and the Immanuel community, Lynnette.

  5. Jim Grunow

    Nice piece here from my pastor. “Every ending leads to a new beginning”–much wisdom and truth in those words. All I can say to you with a tear or two in my eyes–well done thou good and faithful servant!! You are leaving us with such honesty, grace, and hope. Blessings to you and Will in your continuing life together!!

    1. Gretchen Bingea

      Thank you Jim! I appreciate your kind words and blessing for our future.

  6. Jan Gieselman

    Thank you for your spiritual guidance, Pastor, and to Will for sharing his gifts with Immanuel over these past 5 years. Although you will be missed, congratulations are in order, along with all good wishes for the new journey of retirement!

    1. Gretchen Bingea

      Thanks so much Jan! You and Les have been such a support to us and we will miss you.

  7. Anna Boyer

    I’m sorry my family and I didn’t get to spend more time under your leadership. We look forward to joining the church after the pandemic. All the best in your retirement!

    1. Gretchen Bingea

      Thank you Anna! I’m sorry our time together was so short, too, but I know you will find a welcoming church family at Immanuel.

  8. Jack Kouloheris

    Hi Gretchen,
    I stumbled across this post when looking for where you were today.
    I remember you from when you were a pastoral intern at UniLu in Palo Alto.
    It’s so surprising to read about your retirement!

    Thank you so much for your ministry – it was very meaningful to me when I was a student there.

    All the best to you and your family.

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